A man has a medical scare that lands him in the hospital for several days. He pulls through, and he is discharged. He is sent home with some dietary restrictions and a timetable for resuming different daily activities such as driving, exercising, and lifting heavy objects. He has received that most frightening wake up call, and he realizes that he needs to make changes.
He now understands that he must practice moderation. He knows that the previous years’ excesses have brought him to this place. He is willing to cut back on the unhealthy foods and increase his fitness level.
His loved ones, with all of the best intentions, prefer elimination to moderation. No, you cannot drink that. No, you cannot eat that. No, you cannot do that. No, no, no! Be careful with this. Watch out for that. Careful, careful, careful! They mean well, and they want him to stick around for a long time to come.
He lives, yet his life has changed. It is now full of cannots and cautions. He begins to wonder if this is what he survived for. Is this why he was given another chance? What is the point of a life if not to live it? Is he living, or is he merely existing?
I look at this man, and I am sad for him. I want him to be healthy, but one must be happy in order to be truly healthy. He needs to change his diet and exercise habits to be sure, but he should not be deprived of the occasional treat. He should not be forced to spend his days strapped into an invisible safety harness. There has to be an acceptable balance that allows him to continue to live his life, not just to survive.
A young woman is diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer. She undergoes what is known as the “Mother of All Surgeries” (MOAS), and she endures a slow, painful recovery that lasts for more than a year. She winds up minus a few body parts and with permanent damage to others. Things are touch and go for a long time. There are numerous repeat admissions to hospitals, tests after tests, and treatments upon treatments.
Today, she lives. And when I tell you that she lives, I mean she lives. She embraces life. She devours it. She throws herself into it with beautiful abandon. She appreciates every extra minute that grace has bestowed upon her.
She has limits and restrictions, too. She has days when her body delivers a less-than-kind reminder of those limitations. On those days she knows that she must retreat for a time, only so that she may charge right back into life and living.
She has come to understand the necessity of balance, the give and take that allows her to continue finding joy in many of her dayst Har friends and family understand and readily accept that there will be some missed events and some rescheduled plans, thankful that there will be future days spent together. Each December we celebrate her birthday, and each June we acknowledge the anniversary of the MOAS and the rebirth of the woman who chooses to live.
I watch her, and I smile. She teaches me how to recover, how to persevere, and how to be stronger than a “weakened” body should allow. I look to her, and I know that the point of a life is indeed to live it.
This post is dedicated to my friend Liz, whose beautiful and passionate spirit has taught me a thing or two about how to live a life. Cheers! Karen
Life is meant to be lived – and I am grateful every day for a second chance at life. I’m glad Liz has embraced her life as well, and happy you are able to share it!
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I am happy to see that you have embraced your second chance, too! Sad how some of us don’t recognize the gift that this life is to us.
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Sadly, it does take something huge sometimes to kick us out of our comfort zone and knock the blinders off…..happily, many of us recognize it for what it is and take that to advantage. I really enjoyed your post, Karen…..it’s so important to remember to get out there and LIVE
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Luckily my friend Liz has always been blessed with a full-blown zest for life, even long before her illness. Me…it took me a while longer to figure things out, but I’m fully aware now! 🙂
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I agree that life is for living as fully as we can. ‘As my Nan used to see ‘You are a long time dead!’
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Your Nan was a wise woman- I love that saying!
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Yes, she had a stash of them for every occasion! 🙂
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I enjoyed your post, Karen. It’s such great advice to live in the moment with grace and gratitude. 🙂
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Thank you, Tonya. Sometimes life serves up reminders of the blessing that it is, if only we are willing to see it. Wishing you a wonderful week ahead! 🙂
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I completely agree. Thank you, Karen. I hope you have a wonderful week as well! 🙂
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Reblogged this on Heba vs Reason.
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Thank you for the reblog! Very kind of you! 🙂
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You’re so right, Karen. There is a big difference between living and being alive. Your friend Liz seems to understand that fact. I’m glad she helped you learn the same lessons. Be well.
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Thank you, George! It makes a big difference in how you approach your days, that’s for sure!
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That’s so powerful. My widower had found himself in that first position, but managed to find a balance. You sound like a good friend, too!
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Scary stuff- I’m glad he’s in good shape and has found that needed balance. I am made better by the people around me. 🙂
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Beautiful comparison and analogy of life!
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Thanks, Terri!
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Lovely, Karen. Yes, I’m beginning to see how happiness is a choice. Your friend Liz sounds like the perfect example. I’m always amazed by the bravery and strength of some people.
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It’s a lesson that took me longer to learn than I care to admit. I, too, an in awe of how strong people can be when it’s called for most.
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It’s hard to come back from a scare with such spirit. Thanks for sharing these stories – both of them.
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I guess we don’t really know how we would act/ react unless put in the same situation… Thank you for visiting!
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I am so happy that your friend Liz is embracing life. It sounds like she has an amazing spirit and true wisdom. Hats off to her 🙂 I have seen this go the opposite way and it is really sad. Your first example is all to real and so many times loved ones hurt more than help. Great post!
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Yes, I have seen it go the opposite way, too. I’m sure it is not easy for loved ones, scared to lose people they care about, to let go and trust in letting someone jump back into living. Thank you for reading & taking the time to share your thoughts! 🙂
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This is such a heartfelt post. I really loved it, the fact that how after everything your friend embraced life. Hats off to her. Has she read this?
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Thank you. 🙂 Yes, she has read it, as she is kind enough to follow my blog. 🙂
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