Graceful Exits (How to Walk Away)


One of my favorite pieces. I wrote this one a year ago, and it has become timely for me once again. I needed the reminder today. This must be something that we all struggle with, because this is one of my posts that is found most often via Internet searches.

There are times when we need to walk away.  Different situations and relationships reach their inevitable conclusion, and we must determine the best way to extricate ourselves.  We need to keep in mind that how we choose to exit impacts both us and those we leave behind.

Make a graceful exit from the workplace.  Most of us will switch jobs at least once in our lifetime.  You may receive a better offer, you may find you can no longer tolerate the environment, or you may be seeking to find career alternatives.  No matter the reason, I advise you to proceed with caution in how you exit.  (Yes, this is the voice of experience speaking.)
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Across the Ages


“You would hate me if I told you how old I am.”

No, my darling girl, I would not.  I would smile and continue to enjoy your company.  I am sorry to disappoint you, but you will find no jealousy or age rage here.

You see, I have been where you are now.  I know some of what you are going through, and I know some of what is yet to come.  When it was my turn there were extraordinary times, and there were dark times.  I think it is safe to say you will experience both, and I encourage you to embrace all of it.  These are the days that will begin to form you into who you are meant to become.

I will not presume to give you advice.  You would not appreciate it any more than I did when it was unsolicited and directed at me.  I will indulge your idea that you know exactly who you are and what you want out of life.  I might cringe as I watch you make mistakes, but I will not interfere.  I will celebrate your victories and your accomplishments.  I may nudge you ever so gently on occasion, if only to steer you away from certain hurt or danger, but I promise there will be no judgment attached.

I do not begrudge your smooth, unlined skin, nor do I begrudge my fine and not-so-fine lines.  I am not envious of your ability to eat fried foods and rich desserts without fear of repercussions in the form of pounds gained.  Get away with it while you can!  The day will come, far down your road, when you realize that a bit of extra cushioning is not nearly the worst thing that will happen to you.  I have no desire to go back to where I was, but that does not mean I do not want you to be there now.

Shine in your moment, beautiful girl, and live your twenties like they will never end. Then when they do, jump headlong into your thirties and live them like they will never end, too.  Some day, so distant that it seems unthinkable, you will be where I am now- living my forties like they will never end.  I promise you will be amazed by who you are by the time you get here.

Are you in your twenties and just starting out in your “adult” life?  Would you like to revisit your twenties with the knowledge you have now? How do you feel about aging?  Is there a time you wish you could return to, or do you feel that these are the best years of your life?

As always I encourage and welcome your comments and feedback, and I thank you for reading.  Cheers! Karen


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